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Ecstacy Denied. November 5, 2008

Posted by littlebangtheory in Love and Death, Politics and Society.
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I stir, roll over, and finger the alarm in the dim, pre-dawn light.

I haven’t gotten enough sleep.  How could I, with the passion flowing ’till three AM, so wrapped up in the Promise and the Glory, a new relationship consummated on a bed of Hope.

It was beautiful, but as with all things beautiful, the reality of last night was not without its warts, its too-late-acknowledged realities, the cut of the knife.

To have placed so much of my heart in the safe keeping of the Family of Man, my family, expecting it to be cherished and nurtured, expecting compassion and understanding, believing that Common Decency and a respect for the Power of Love would prevail, it was hard seeing how easily we were brought to our baser instincts, how willingly we cut loose the vulnerable and disenfranchised among us, how cavalierly The Deed was done.

California’s Proposition 8, crafted by bigots, fueled by lies, marketed by hypocrites and bought by a cowering cadre of self serving, self proclaimed “Christians,” eschews the teachings of their Namesake in favor of clutching tightly to what they have and others have not, the right to marry the person they love.

It seems we haven’t learned to share, even when the commodity in question multiplies as it is divided and passed around, even when there’s more than enough Love for everyone the world over, even when not sharing diminishes the value of our own stake.

What will it take to open our collective eyes to the truth, that All Men Are Created Equal, that We The People are each others’ keepers, that we are exhorted by our professed faiths to not judge our brothers and sisters, our sons and daughters, ourselves?

For starters, it will take a raising of many voices, a willingness to proselytize outside of our safe community of like-minded friends, a meeting of every falsehood with a corresponding truth.  It will take courage and perseverance.  And it will take the patience and implacability of an Obama in the face of the inevitable attacks.

If we don’t do this, if we don’t all get on this now and stay on it until the job is done, yet another generation of us will be denied parity, dignity, an equity stake in the American Dream.

But if we do this, if we work it the way we worked the election, as though our futures, all our futures, depended on it, we won’t be denied.

Speak out.  Write letters to the Editors of your local papers.  Call your local radio stations.  Not because we vote in a month or a week or a day, but because we vote now, today, this minute, to either be the change we want to see in the world, or to shut up and sit down and let others choose our futures and the futures of our children.

And we haven’t the right to surrender that to anyone.



1. beatgrl - November 5, 2008

I thought of your daughter (- a newlywed!! ) first thing this morning as I heard the results.

It’s shameful what happened in California.

2. littlebangtheory - November 5, 2008

It’s shameful that we allow Hamilton’s Beast to vote on the rights of minorities of any ilk, and that needs to change.

Hopefully the courts will embrace the Full Protection Clause; otherwise the shredding of our Constitution will be complete, and I’m not ready to let that happen.

3. Sylvia Kirkwood - November 5, 2008

I, too, was thinking of your daughter today when I read what had happened in California. It is indeed shameful and outrageous to deny to some what we consider only proper for those “like” us! To hell with them. I will do what I can.


4. dianne - November 6, 2008

I kept hoping, it was so close! I was disgusted by AZ and FL but then again I often am.

But in CA I held out hope.

I have sent more $$ to HRC. And I will look into what more I can do.

I had one moment today that made me feel like I helped along a little change. I was talking to a neighbor about Obama. She was thrilled as am I. I told her about Prop 8 ruining the feeling and she shrugged.

I asked her to close her eyes. She reluctantly did. I told her to imagine her wedding day. She has only been married 2 years. She smiled. I told her to remember how happy she was that day. Her smile grew.

Then I clapped my hands loud and abrupt in her face and shouted – Well we take it back!!

She burst into tears.

Perhaps we need to go after the’shruggers’

My heart hurts for SG1 and all our children.

5. kkryno - November 6, 2008

I don’t understand this at all! There IS enough Love to go around. Why can’t these osrtriches get that? It’s like someone said before about being against gay marriage. If that troubles you, don’t marry a homosexual. Love is love, is love, is love, is love….

I have too many that I care about; that I’ve known most of my life that are directly crushed by this action. How can anyone justify quashing the fundamental rights and dreams of others?

There is still much work to do. 😦

6. Margie Miller - November 6, 2008

The tragedy is that it was the power and funds of the Mormon church that did this. Between them and fundamentalist Christians, they managed to once again pull the plug on the rights of others. How on earth gay marriage can damage straight marriage is beyond me.

And this coming from the Mormons, who embraced polygamy for so many years. Talk about a marriage view that damages marriage! How hypocritical!

7. Bobbie - November 6, 2008

It is a tragedy. I think there are people who cannot believe in themselves unless they can find someone else to look down on for something – anything will do. In order to believe themselves right, they must find something to call wrong. I don’t know how to get around that. You can’t use logic and reason. They will simply close their eyes and say that their God doesn’t want it that way. How can they believe that? Has their God whispered into their ears? I think their God is in tears.

8. sherry - November 6, 2008

it just is so so so stupid!

stupid and meanspirited and once again wrapped up with a flag and carrying a cross.

9. QuakerDave - November 6, 2008

Another reason why I love living in New Jersey.

I just do not get this at all. A real Christian would know that JESUS never said ONE FRIGGIN’ WORD about this. Not one. I don’t worship in a faith that depends on the Old Testament. I don’t follow the teachings of Paul (who obviously had some serious issues).

I believe in the teachings of Christ. Who never struck me as being a homophobe.

And this coming from the Mormons, who embraced polygamy for so many years. Talk about a marriage view that damages marriage! How hypocritical!

Yup. Try as I might not to judge the faith of others, this was just beyond the pale…

10. The Pagan Sphinx - November 6, 2008

Well-written CR. I have to add that the Catholic church did their share to fund Prop 8.

I don’t see enough support for marriage equality even among the liberal communities, both actual and virtual. It’s one of those issues that people who are straight seem to feel doesn’t really affect them.

I’m sorry if I sound inflammatory. I’m actually just really sad and disappointed.

11. littlebangtheory - November 6, 2008

As well you ought to be, Gina. Perhaps our stake in this is higher than that of some others, but it’s nowhere near as high as that of those directly affected.

And for the sake of those good people who have been denied, I’m trying to transform my rage into productive action.

Wish me luck.

12. Laurie B - November 9, 2008

ANd hey, The organizers of the NLTG, National Gay and Lesbian Task Force..all went to work for Obama. Did they ask others in, say from MA, CT OR NY, NO.they just went off and left prop 8 out to dry. So, just how many of us are left out to dry becuase they thought, “I’m working for civil rights, Obama will change the situation in CA”?

To the NGLTF,
WTF..good on ya, your help in getting Obama elected was great. Obama is no more a friend of mine that Bill Clinton was. Remember the “Defense of Marriage Act”..yeah, Bll was the one. He F**cked the one woman by consent. G>W f***cked the nation by consent, and we get Obama saying, well..not much. Obama would rather we don’t appear either.

We want equal rights. We already have equal rites. And yet, I’m old enough that I remember that the Equal Rights Amendment ddn’t pass either. If WOMEN are not equal, how in the world will lesbians and gays be equal? You staight folk’s have a shit load of work to do. We’ll help.

Thanks CR for letting me rant just a bit. I know that your passion is in the same place. Keep taking those photos, they help soothe my world. There is much peace and prayer you bring there.

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