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In God’s Eyes. October 28, 2008

Posted by littlebangtheory in Love and Death.
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My dear, dear Elder Progeny (SG1, if you’re a friend of The Pagan Sphinx) is a marvel of self direction and determination.  She has an indomitable passion, at times terrifying in its intensity, and when she wants something, she generally gets it.

So it didn’t surprise Pagan Sphinx or me when she and the Love of her Life, Shannon, announced that they planned on getting married in California right after graduation from college.  They’re so sweet and right together!

But lately, the momentum of California’s Proposition 8 had them worried that their window of opportunity was about to be slammed shut by a campaign of fear-mongering and bigotry.

So this morning at 3am they hopped a shuttle to Bradley Airport in Connecticut, caught a flight to San Francisco…

…and at 5pm Pacific time, they were married.


My Little Girl, my first-born, my tiny jewel, two little hands-full, who at a week old had eyes deep with the clarity and wisdom of the ages,  who struggled for most of her young life against seemingly insurmountable odds, who wrestled with Demons we could barely imagine, who beat them back with her bare hands and iron will, who climbed out of an abyss so deep that there were times when we could barely see her, hardly touch her, held our breath and prayed, Dear God, for her life…

…Yes, that one, who is now a beautiful young woman, finishing up a stellar career at an excellent college, and who found herself a beautiful, loving soul, a Kindred Spirit, a partner as beautiful and brilliant and brave as herself…

Meredith, I couldn’t possibly be prouder of you, or happier for you both.

May the Holy Spirits of Mother Earth, and of Father Sky, and of the God of All Love keep you safe, and strong, and together.


Postscript – I decided to take Fran up on her suggestion that I cross-post this over at Mombian, because we all need to come out about and support each other in our acceptance of Love in All Its Forms, and our rejection of the bigotry which is embodied in Proposition 8.


1. ymp - October 28, 2008

Blessings to Meredith and Shannon! And to you as the expansion of your family is formalized!

2. Sylvia Kirkwood - October 28, 2008

And please give Meredith and Shannon my blessings as well! It always hurts to see our children in pain for whatever reason. I am so very happy for all of you on this day. Peace and joy and love to you all.


3. Bob - October 28, 2008

I want to invent new words of celebration to, umm, celebrate this. Alas, I’ll have to settle for Fantastic and Congratulations!

4. Jennifer - October 28, 2008

When Bob says, “Go to Ralph’s. Right now.” …well, of course I do, but with my heart in my throat.

I…can only imagine writing such a joyous post about one of my own little girls, 15 years or so hence.

Namaste indeed.

5. littlebangtheory - October 29, 2008

Thanks, Folks. I’ll breath easier once they’re back at MoHome (as Mount Holyoke is called by its denizens); knowing they’re flying in wintry and windy weather is nervous-making for me.

Then the REAL work begins, the work of defending their rights to live like first-class citizens of this Country.

I wish Obama and Biden were more progressive on this count; it seems like such a no-brainer to me.

6. Bobbie - October 29, 2008

I am so happy for them, and for you and Gina. I’m glad that they decided to take the plunge now, before the dreaded Prop 8. Don’t know how people cannot understand this, but obviously, they don’t. Their loss. But I’m sure the road ahead may be rocky. Still, they have one another, and wonderful, supportive parents.

7. FranIam - October 29, 2008

That is so great. You should really link this amazing post to Mombian today!!

That is so beautiful- I am delighted for you all.

8. sherry - October 29, 2008

it think it is so so so wonderful!!!!

and you, the proud papa!!!!

9. Christina - October 29, 2008

Congratulations to Meridith and Shannon!

May they always remember the joy they feel now and may they carry it with them always.

10. sherry - October 29, 2008

i put a cake up for them at my blog.

nothing beats wedding cake!!! : )

11. Jane R - October 29, 2008

Congratulations to Meredith and Shannon and many many blessings! I’m so happy for them – and for you and Pagan Sphinx who rejoice in your children.

12. Randal Graves - October 29, 2008

Most excellent!

13. littlebangtheory - October 29, 2008


That’s ten Q.

Fran, that looks like a great place for it, but for now I just want to share this with the few people who care to come here on a regular basis, rather than throwing The Gurlz’ personal lives out into the greater world of strangers.

That might sound odd coming from a guy who just put it out on the web, but you know what I mean. This isn’t exactly a high-traffic site. 🙂

14. The Pagan Sphinx - October 29, 2008

Well, I had to leave the computer for a bit to dab at my eyes, of course. And even now, it’s hard for me to not be choked up. It’s been a whirlwind couple of days for me emotionally. I wanted to be there to celebrate with them and yet I respected their decision to do this piece on their own. Because I could not fully share in it, it’s left me feeling bittersweet thoughts. Maybe it’s a mother thing.

This kid was a gift and seeing her happy is a blessing I’ll forever be grateful for.

Thank you for this, Ralph


15. littlebangtheory - October 29, 2008

Love back at ya, Gina.

Yeah, I cried a good bit typing that, so much so that it was a mess of typos, and had to be seriously edited when I got my eyes dried.

And remember, that was the “City Hall” part of getting married; we’ll have their Wedding in the Spring, and we’ll all be there. 😉

16. Mombian » Blog Archive » Write to Marry Day: Contributed Posts - October 29, 2008

[…] Little Bang Theory In God’s Eyes. […]

I guess this is my notice of cross-linking over at Mobion…

17. Paul in ABQ - October 29, 2008

Oh damn, here come the tears again. CR, what a precious bit of joy you have shared with us here.

Your photos feed my soul but when you write you often touch deep spots within me.

Every joy and blessing to Meredith and Shannon as they journey together.

Thank you.

18. littlebangtheory - October 29, 2008

Paul, so good to see you!

I was similarly moved by your post. I mean, what part of “LOVE” don’t these people understand? A hetero couple can get a $20 Drive-Through Wedding in Vegas, but a same-sex couple with a lifetime of faithful commitment between them can’t get married???

Jesus would toss these Prop 8 bums out on their ears!

If they were lucky, they’d land on top of the Money Changers.

Speaking of which, that’s another post!

19. dianne - October 29, 2008

I’m so happy for everyone.

I was thrilled and chilled and nostalgic at my son’s wedding. How the hell any other parent can not understand that all children deserve that happiness is beyond me.

And how any parent can condone denying all human rights to all children is beyond me.

Many blessings to all.

20. fairlane - October 30, 2008

Congrats, homie.

Love is love.

21. littlebangtheory - October 30, 2008

dianne, that’s exactly right. It’s not about gay rights, it’s about human rights.

We pay lip service to the concept, but the reality is that we have a long way to go.

22. DCup - October 30, 2008

A million congratulations to Meredith and Shannon! I wish them all the happiness that a life together can bring.

23. JCF - October 30, 2008

Hey, CR, I’m here by way of Pagan Sphinx: Congrats!!! Kisses to the lovely brides!

24. Kelly - October 30, 2008

Congratulations to you and Gina on the marriage of Meredith and Shannon! I know that you must be a proud “papa!” (Pagan Sphinx) is a good friend, so I just wanted to extend my congratulations to you as well!

The story that you wrote is one of the most beautiful stories that I’ve ever read and how lucky Meredith is to have such a loving and wonderful father like you!! She will forever be able to look back and read this all the days of her life! What a lucky girl she is!!!!

25. littlebangtheory - October 30, 2008

Lisa, thanks, I’ll pass that on!

JCF, Kelly, welcome. You’re afflicted, I must say, with Worthiness By Association Syndrome. Isn’t PS wonderful? I visit her often, both for her art and her heart. It wasn’t for any lack of respect that we went our separate ways, and I’m really proud that we’ve co-parented our gurrrls into such amazing young women.

Thank you all for your good wishes, they’ll be appropriately forwarded!

26. Elder Progeny - October 30, 2008

Thank you so much, Daddy. S and I are reading this together and getting teary.

We love you. ❤

27. littlebangtheory - October 30, 2008

Oh good, then I can consider the well-wishes “forwarded!” 😉

Saves your e-tarded old man the hassle of jumping through those techno-hoops!

Do you mind if I chose a photo to put up? They’re all beautiful, and I’m sure these nice folks would love to see you both.

Peace and Love,


28. kkryno - October 30, 2008

Showers of Joy and Happiness abound in my heart for your Meredith and Shannon! I’m sure that you and Gina feel blessed to know they love each other and have shown the world and each other how they feel. Love knows no boundries and I wish thm many, many years together. 🙂

29. Tengrain - October 31, 2008

What a great Dad! Adopt me, I’m an orphan!



30. littlebangtheory - October 31, 2008

How do you feel about eight months of winter and four months of poor sledding?

31. IT - November 1, 2008

My beloved and I married 3 weeks ago…at age 46.

It was the happiest day of my life.

I hope the same for your darling daughter.

(Sent by Fran)


32. littlebangtheory - November 1, 2008

IT, hello, and congratulations!

I hope these times are more than just a “window of opportunity” here in the U.S., and that future generations will look back on the institutionalized discrimination of the present as a barrier to equality which those of us alive now smashed, and thank us for coming to our senses, rather than curse us for carving it in stone.

33. Freida Bee - November 2, 2008

Congratulations on the wonderful addition to your family. Your daughter is, indeed, very fortunate to have such a supportive father.

34. darkblack - November 2, 2008

Best wishes to the newlyweds, and many years of bliss.

35. Lee (caminante) - November 3, 2008

Many blessings and congratulations for everyone and especially Meredith and Shannon. May they find that love conquers hate. May they find their love ever strengthened by the commitment they made. And may they, like the rest of us, fight like hell to prevent any further votes of discrimination.

36. littlebangtheory - November 3, 2008

You Betcha! *wink*

37. littlebangtheory - November 3, 2008

…And Thanks, FB, db and Lee!

38. Spartacus - November 5, 2008

My congratulations to your daughter and her partner CR.

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